It's almost definitely a bug in your code. Most likely, one side thinks the other side has timed out and so closes the connection abnormally. The most common way this happens it that you call a receive function to get data, but you actually already got that data and just didn't realize it. So you're waiting for data that you have already received and thus time out.
For example:
1) Client sends a message.
2) Client sends another message.
3) Server reads both messages but thinks it only got one, sends an acknowledge.
4) Client receives acknowledge, waits for second acknowledge which server will never send.
5) Server waits for second message which it actually already received.
Now the server is waiting for the client and the client is waiting for the server. The server was coded incorrectly and didn't realize that it actually got two messages in one go. TCP does not preserve message boundaries.
If you tell me more about your protocol, I can probably tell you in more detail what went wrong. What constitutes a message? Which side sends when? Are there any acknowledgements? And so on.
But the short version is that each side is probably waiting for the other.
Most likely, the connection reset by peer is a symptom. Your problem occurs, one side times out and aborts the connection. That causes the other side to get a connection reset because the other side aborted the connection.