so that they can talk because they want to share their idea and all of us do that, this is the natural for all of us i am not saying that you should never do this because we all have this tendency we all want to share our thoughts and so we wait for our turn to talk yes we do that but do not be too axious to do that when you are too axious to do that it shows that->the other people can not->\ tell that you are just waiting for them to finish or you are trying to interrupt them or something like that and that is not good we do not want make the other person feel like they can not complete their thought becuase we want to talk so autually listen actually care about what the other person is saying and that will make the other people->person feel about care->cared about and it will make them feel like they are having a good conversation when you listen to them.
another tip that i have for you is to practice with your body language what is body language? it refers to any null->non- verbal things that you do that communicate something to another person and when i say non-verbal i am saying something besides just the words that you say so we communicate with our words but we also communicate with things besides our words it could be with your town->tone of voice if you have a certain town->tone that can comminicate something it can be the way that you move your body or you position how you position->are positioned or would->it could be whether your->you are smiling or nodding those type of things the word nod means you move your head up and down to say yes to someone so if someone asks you if you are ok->okay? and you nod this means that you are moving your head up and down to say yes so nodding is a type of body language and agreeing while the other person is talking may be you go umm yeah enhen->Mhmm while they are speaking for example that could be something that communicates a message to the other person that you are listening to them you are engaged in what they are saying right? so all of these things are important however i will say that you want to also make sure that you are reading the other person and based on their culture background or maybe their personality it is good to ajust your body language accordingly when i say accordingly what i am saying is according to this situation in an appropriate way given that situation so you want to ajust your body language accordingly because some body->people will respond better to certain body language and some people will respond worse so some people might not like when you agree and you can->kind of interrupt them a little bit when you say yeah Mhmm yeah when->while they are talking some people might not like for you to do that really frequently while they are speaking however other people might expect that from you right? they might even ask you you know you understand it you get it just to make sure that you are agreeing and understanding them so if you give them the proper body language qs->cues then they will see that you are listening by the way the word cue refers to some signal that communicates a message to someone so a body language cue would be some movement or someting that you do that communicates a message to the other person so just be aware that people respond differently to different body language but that is another important thing to incoperate into your conversations.
another one another tip that i have is to practice with your ??->segues ways and transition, a segue is a transition between one thing and another in this context of conversations it would be a natural way to transition between topics. so this tip is not absolutely neccessary you do not always have to have good segues and transitions between topics however it does make the conversations->\ flow better if you are someone that can naturally transition between different topics and make the conversation seem likes it is flowing naturally and make sure that you do not have really abrupt transitions then the conversation feels better.
by the way the word abrupt means something that just happens all of a sudden that is not very plesant usually it is not smooth it is a transition in this case it->that is not smooth and it->that is->does not flow well so if you are talking to someone about their job and then you run out of things to say or questions to ask and then you just suddenly change the topic->topics and say what do you do for fun it can seem a little bit abrupt if the other person is not expecting that and it is okay like i said it is not absolutely neccessary but it helps if you can make the transition smoother and instead of just saying what do you do for fun you can say something like okay and when you are not working what would you like to do in your free time so you see how that transition included the previous topic we are->were talking about the work and then i use that to segue into the next topic when you are not working what do you like to do in your free time you see how that transition is very smooth.
again you are not always going to do this and this is definately a skill that you have to develop over time however if you have more of these natural transitions the conversations->\ will feel better and one other tip that is very similar to the last one is to try to avoid awkward silences meaning you do not want to have these moments when->where both of you are slient and you do not know what to say and both people are waiting for the other person to say something that can be uncomfortable and it can make the conversation feel like it is not flowing well.
so this is something that is really hard to always get right you are going to have to practice with this and it is going to take a lot of experience and time to develop this skill but i think it is worth it to try to develop this ability to make sure there are not any awkward sliences or that there are only a few of them in your conversation and a way you can do this is to get better and ask->at asking questions so asking follow up questions so when you ask one question and the people finishing->finishes talking you do not want to just stay slient there.
you probably want to ask a follow up question right? another question to go into more detail or to ask them something related to want they just said and it helps the conversation to continue to flow without uncomfortable sliences in there and if you ask a question it also gives you a little time to think of your next question or your next transition etc. you do not want to think too much about this because you want to listen to the other person of course.
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