每日英语听力 Day 26

welcome to the listening time podcast hey everybody this is corner and you are listening to episode 136 of the listening time podcast. thank you all for listening i hope you are all doing well i hope your year is starting off well and that you are motivated to keep on practicing your English in today’s episode. we are going to talk about conversation we are going to talk about how to have good conversations in your own language and i will also talk about some tips about how you can have better conversations in English when you are speaking this foreign language.

so i think this will be really interesting and relevant to all of you because i think all of us want to be better conversationalistss in our own language and of course as language learners we want to get better at speaking to people and having a conversation in our foreign language that we are learning so i am sure you will like this topic and before we start remember that if you need my help to understand native speakers when they speak fast then make sure to join my membership then->so you can get my specialized training.

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okay let us talk about having good conversations first of all let us start with having conversations in your own language so just being a good coversationalist in general let us go over some tips these are things that i have noticed and that i have tried to develop over the years especially as an English teacher because i have talked to many people hundreds and hundreds of different people from all around->over the world for thousands of hours i constantly have conversations with different people from different backgrounds different cultures different personalities etc.

so this really trains you to become a good conversationalist because if you are in my position you need to talk to tons of different people and manage conversations well navigate the conversation this is really important if you do something similar to what i do so i am going to talk from experience here and hopefully these tips are useful for you so the first tip i have when one of the most important things one->when it comes to have a good conversation is to ask questions okay?

it is really simple if you know how to ask questions and ask good questions then your conversations will usually go pretty well. why is that? well, it is because in general pople like talking about themselves so when you ask someone a question about them then they have a->the chance to talk about themselves people really like that so when you ask questions you put the focus on the other person and you allow them to talk and this makes them feel better than if you talked the whole time about yourself right?

people prefer to have the chance to discuss their thoughts their oppnions->opinions their story and they want to feel like they are getting the chance to talk and talk about themselves, right?

so if you ask a lot of questions if you ask good questions this will definately help you and in my experience, as a teacher the number one reason why i can have so many conversations and have successful conversations and everyone feels good about the conversation is usually because my ability to ask questions because i am constantly get->getting the other people to talk.

if i stop asking qustions then the other person would be put in a position where they have to ask me a question or they have to develop a new train of thought or whatever and that is giving their the work by the way when we say a train of thought, your train of thought we are talking about the way that your thoughts are developing the direction that they are going in so in this case i am saying that i do not want them to have to really make a lot of effort to develop their train of thought and ask me questions especially if they are students->a student and i am a teacher.

of course it is great when they know how to ask questions as well but in general most people do not really have this skill i have tons of experience talking to different people and most people are not great at this so if you do this well then you will have more successful conversations and you will make it easier for the other person and similar to this tip is my next tip which is to listening->listen so you ask questions and then you actually listen you listen to what the other people is saying and you actually care about what they are saying okay?

people can tell if you are listening most people can get a feeling about whether or not you are actually listening to them or if you are thinking about something else while they are speaking so actually care about what the other people->person is saying and listen to them and do not just be anxious for your turn to speak i am sure you have had this situations->\ before where you are talking to someone and you are feeling->it feels like they are just waiting for you to finish what you are saying.